She wrote this from my heart!
I am honestly obsessed with this MindBodyGreen website. This is another article I came across today and I love love love!
Forgiveness can be an issue for some. When you don’t forgive people, what you forget is that you are really hurting yourself more than anyone else. So if you have a problem with forgiveness, take note of these steps and GET YOUR LIFE! (LOL)
1. Know exactly how you feel about what happened and be able to articulate what about the situation is not OK.
Then, tell a trusted couple of people about your experience.
2. Make a commitment to yourself to do what you have to do to feel better.
Forgiveness is for you and not for anyone else.
3. Know that forgiveness does not necessarily mean reconciliation with the person who hurt you, or condoning of their action.
What you’re after is to find peace. Forgiveness can be defined as the “peace and understanding that comes from blaming whoever has hurt you less, taking the life experience less personally, and changing your grievance story.”
4. Get the right perspective on what’s happening.
Recognize that your primary distress is coming from the hurt feelings, thoughts and physical upset you are suffering now, not what offended you or hurt you two minutes — or 10 years — ago. Forgiveness helps to heal those hurt feelings.
5. Manage your stress.
At the moment you feel upset, practice a simple stress management technique to soothe your body’s flight or fight response.
6. Give up expecting things from other people that they do not choose to give you.
Recognize the “unenforceable rules” you have for your health or how you or other people must behave. Remind yourself that you can hope for health, love, peace and prosperity and work hard to get them.
7. Put your energy into looking for another way to get your positive goals met than through the experience that has hurt you.
Instead of mentally replaying your hurt, seek new ways to get what you want.
8. Remember that a life well lived is your best revenge.
Instead of focusing on your wounded feelings, and thereby giving the person who caused you pain power over you, learn to look for the love, beauty and kindness around you. Forgiveness is about personal power.
9. Amend your grievance story to remind you of the heroic choice to forgive.
The practice of forgiveness has been shown to reduce anger, hurt depression and stress and leads to greater feelings of hope, peace, compassion and self confidence.
Practicing forgiveness leads to healthy relationships as well as physical health. It also influences our attitude which opens the heart to kindness, beauty, and love.
Link to original article: http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-14621/9-steps-to-forgive-those-whove-hurt-you.html
Somebody sent this to me as a BBM broadcast and normally I don’t read long ass broadcasts but I’m glad I read this one. Take some time out, clear your head space and read these four principles. They are awesome and you will be glad you did.
The First Principle states:
“Whomsoever you encounter is the right one”
This means that no one comes into our life by chance. Everyone who is around us, anyone with whom we interact, represents something, whether to teach us something or to help us improve a current situation.
The Second Principle states:
“Whatever happened is the only thing that could have happened”
Nothing, absolutely nothing of that which we experienced could have been any other way. Not even in the least important detail. There is no “If only I had done that differently, then it would have been different”. No. What happened is the only thing that could have taken place and must have taken place for us to learn our lesson in order to move forward. Every single situation in life which we encounter is absolutely perfect, even when it defies our understanding and our ego.
The Third Principle states:
“Each moment in which something begins is the right moment”
Everything begins at exactly the right moment, neither earlier nor later. When we are ready for it, for that something new in our life, it is there, ready to begin.
The Fourth Principle states:
“What is over, is over”
It is that simple. When something in our life ends, it helps our evolution. That is why, enriched by the recent experience, it is better to let go and move on.
Think it is no coincidence that you’re here reading this.
If these words strike a chord, it’s because you meet the requirements and understand that not one single snowflake falls accidentally in the wrong place!
Be good to yourself.
Love with your whole being.
Always be happy.
Yes, the mind of a writer is indeed a crazy place but any writer will agree that it is PERFECT that way 🙂
I think a writer of any genre gets accustomed to a certain degree of lunacy taking place in their brain at any particular moment. Whether it be coming up with plausible ways to kill off a character to meticulously establishing the detailed properties of dragon snot; the brain of a writer is a mysterious instrument of imaginative innovation, the clogs always ticking.
Though my aforementioned hiatus in writing has taken a toll on my creative output, what’s been going on in the mystery-that-is-my-head has remained consistently reliable in its “creative vision”, otherwise known as:
…les crazy thoughts.
The other day I was taking one of my favourite walks through a local piece of glorious countryside. I had a river to my right, pastures to my left, the sun on my face. In a rare moment of total tranquility I found myself not thinking about anything other than how great life was in that moment.
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I wrote this last night as I was watching the water in a state of mind that I really can’t explain. Read and enjoy, or read and wonder what the hell is wrong with me (LOL).
I am the sea and the sea is me. Can you see the depth of the sea? You can’t imagine the depth of my heart, my love and my soul. Notice the beauty, the calm and the mystery of the sea but see me savage, dangerous, angry… like the sea.
The ripples of the waves, sensual, inviting and whimsical… just like me. The lights hit the water, sparkling like my eyes. I am drawn but I run. I dream yet I fear, the power so great and intimidating. I shouldn’t hold back. I should sway and let the water take me faraway.
Shoutout to Kay, new follower and lover of my blog :*
I get so emotional about music and this song right here blew me away. The singer’s voice is so pure and real, really beautiful. And the instrumental, my Lord.
Imagine if Africans could embrace more music like this *sigh*
“We are the prisoners of our own ideals. We have to follow a strict pattern, a set of rules and laws, and play the role society designed for us. We are taught that our choices don’t matter, that at best we are insignificant, and at worst we are invisible, shadowy figures wandering around a desolate landscape filled with rigid concrete boxes and bleak lights shivering in the night. I guess that what I’m really trying to say is that our freedom is limited only by what we believe to be the perception others have about us. ” – Jazz
I’m not an overly ambitious man. I’m not particularly good at most things. I’m rather a pessimist, who happens to have a few moments of idealism. I think I’m too small to change the world around me, and yet this doesn’t stop me from trying.
And I see this kind of thinking…
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I totally agree with this author on social media becoming a BIG problem. Social media can and is a good thing but as with most good things, we have abused it to the point where it can now be equated to mean social evil. For me, Twitter and Instagram are some of the worst. It is really pathetic how far some will go for a “like” or “retweet”. SMH.
About six months ago a photo of teen heartthrob Justin Bieber puffing a marijuana joint was released online on twitter and all hell was let loose.
There were the typical genuine AND hypocritical cries of “shock” and “dismay” over the young man’s behaviour because he was and still is a “role model” to the some kids (which in my opinion says a lot about the parents of those kids). Then there were other seriously sick reactions; A group of morbidly disturbed twitter users started a mock campaign titled “Cut for Bieber” where they encouraged “Bieliebers” (a moniker for fans of the pop star) to cut themselves in protest of Justin’s smoking in order to get him to stop. The trend started and unsurprisingly grew legs and wings and took a whole new turn.
#cut4bieber became the top US trend for a while on twitter. There were scores of pictures (both…
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