I’m an Artist and that is my JOB!!!

Just had a heated and emotional discussion with my mum that opened my eyes and my mind to a few things.

As an artist, I am quite emotional so it drives me insane when people assume that because I am not employed in some office or bank, then I’m not working. Some even go as far as saying “why don’t you get a real job?”

A real job??? Music is MY real job! Writing songs is work! Going to the studio and spending hours to lay down vocals that sound awesome is work! Performing on stage? You already know, more work. Practicing, listening to music to improve your ear and writing skills, networking…these are things I do on the daily and they are part of my job as an artist. Fine I may not be rolling in the dough YET, but I am happy, got my peace of mind and I feel fulfilled. That is success. Success isn’t having all the wealth or being ahead of other people. Success is fulfilling your purpose and every time I share my voice and my music with people, I feel fulfilled. I feel like I’m doing what I was made to do (same with writing). 

Would I like to make more money? Duh. Is money everything? Hell no. Is God providing everything I need to live and achieve my dreams? Yes! So I step out in confidence everyday knowing I have what it takes to get to the top in my chosen career and trusting that the God I serve will get me there.

And now back to the things I said my eyes were opened to from my discussion with my mum;
1. Understanding is everything. Because people are different, something that is so plain to you will not be to another person. You make life easier for yourself when you try to understand where others are coming from and in turn, help them understand you.

2. Doubt and fear are normal but do what you need to do anyway.

3. You may be making the most logical point but the moment you let emotions take over, you will likely lose the case because people see emotional outbursts as manipulation. When you are trying to get a point across to someone (especially a pragmatist), you are better off keeping your emotions in check.

4. Just because someone sees the world differently from how you do doesn’t always mean they won’t support you.

And that’s it! Hope this post helps someone out there to stay focused on their dreams, be tolerant and understanding of the people in their life who don’t get it and remember that success is all about fulfilling your purpose.

P.s If you read this Mama, I love you and I’m grateful for you 😘❤️

To My Ideal Reader 

To my ideal reader:

I know you have so many questions and I know you often feel lost. But God has a plan for you; open your heart to Him and let Him show you.

I know sometimes you feel like a child but then there are all these pressures to grow up. You can grow up without growing old. Laugh and live. Work hard and stay focused. It will all fall into place. (P.s if you are a creative, feel free to stay in touch with your inner child. A poet I know says that is a good thing)

I know you have big dreams and you sometimes wonder if it is possible that they ever come true. Yes it is possible. Nothing is impossible.

I know you worry about the future. And you want to make your parents proud and make an impact in this world before you die. Don’t worry! I say we take it a day at a time, a person at a time. We can change the world by loving people, being positive and doing whatever we can to help the people around us, no matter how little.

We gon’ be alright! – Kendrick Lamar 😜

 

Starting Over

So I actually thought I started this blog two years ago but it turns out I started it four years ago. When I started this, the goal was to use it as a journal/ space to inspire anyone who happened to be in the phase of life known as “growing up and finding yourself” (peep my very first post here). Now I haven’t been as consistent as I would have liked to be because Lord knows a lot has happened over the last four years that I could have shared on here but no use dwelling on the past.

Anyway, I have re-gingered where blogging is concerned and I think it is appropriate to update my old readers and give new readers a sense of who I am and what to expect on this blog. 

  • I’m a 25 year old Nigerian musician who still lives with her parents. I write and act as well but my main passion and focus is my music.
  • I am friendly most of the time, I love a good time but I also have those days I can’t deal with people.
  • I am a big girl (thick, fat, chubby- whatever works for you) and while I have those days I can’t stand to look at myself in the mirror and I hate how my clothes fit, I am learning everyday to love and embrace my body as I continue on my journey to being a proud member of FitFam 💪
  • I am a Christian. I love God, I believe in Jesus and while I am barely religious and have had my struggle with my spirituality, I am dedicated to getting closer to God and helping other people do so as well.
  • I’m a dreamer and a rebel. I believe firmly in finding your path in life and being true to what makes you happy as a person.
  • I love love and I am a very emotional person sometimes. When I get passionate about something or someone, it can be quite intense lol.

So I think that covers who I am for the most part. And as for what to expect from my blog, I guess any and everything (did I forget to add I can be random? Think it makes life more interesting 😋). Music, health & fitness, stories & poems, random rants on whatever happens to be on my mind…

Hoping this blog inspires and helps its readers somehow. 

Love and light from me to you xx ❤️