Just had a heated and emotional discussion with my mum that opened my eyes and my mind to a few things.
As an artist, I am quite emotional so it drives me insane when people assume that because I am not employed in some office or bank, then I’m not working. Some even go as far as saying “why don’t you get a real job?”
A real job??? Music is MY real job! Writing songs is work! Going to the studio and spending hours to lay down vocals that sound awesome is work! Performing on stage? You already know, more work. Practicing, listening to music to improve your ear and writing skills, networking…these are things I do on the daily and they are part of my job as an artist. Fine I may not be rolling in the dough YET, but I am happy, got my peace of mind and I feel fulfilled. That is success. Success isn’t having all the wealth or being ahead of other people. Success is fulfilling your purpose and every time I share my voice and my music with people, I feel fulfilled. I feel like I’m doing what I was made to do (same with writing).
Would I like to make more money? Duh. Is money everything? Hell no. Is God providing everything I need to live and achieve my dreams? Yes! So I step out in confidence everyday knowing I have what it takes to get to the top in my chosen career and trusting that the God I serve will get me there.
And now back to the things I said my eyes were opened to from my discussion with my mum;
1. Understanding is everything. Because people are different, something that is so plain to you will not be to another person. You make life easier for yourself when you try to understand where others are coming from and in turn, help them understand you.
2. Doubt and fear are normal but do what you need to do anyway.
3. You may be making the most logical point but the moment you let emotions take over, you will likely lose the case because people see emotional outbursts as manipulation. When you are trying to get a point across to someone (especially a pragmatist), you are better off keeping your emotions in check.
4. Just because someone sees the world differently from how you do doesn’t always mean they won’t support you.
And that’s it! Hope this post helps someone out there to stay focused on their dreams, be tolerant and understanding of the people in their life who don’t get it and remember that success is all about fulfilling your purpose.
P.s If you read this Mama, I love you and I’m grateful for you 😘❤️