Self-Compassion is not a Crime

Self-Compassion is not a Crime

I love this article so much and I think everyone (women especially!) need to read it.

Too often, we are comfortable with being kind to others but going extra hard on ourselves and while it is great that we feel the need to keep ourselves in check and all, we can do this with tenderness and kindness towards ourselves.

I am my biggest critic and it got to a point that I didn’t even know how to comfort myself or make myself feel better when I made mistakes. I would rather berate myself and kick myself for what I felt were my shortcomings. ABSOLUTELY WRONG.

Please read this and learn how to be kind to yourself. It’s freaking necessary!



Do You Boo boo, I’d Rather Do God!

This post is inspired by today’s reading in Everyday with Jesus, a lovely daily devotional that in my opinion, explores and breaks down matters of God and the bible like no other. Today’s reading is called “Treasured Possession” and the bible reading is taken from Exodus 19: 1-4. The emphasis of the reading however, is from verse 4 which says “… I carried you on eagles’ wings and brought you to myself”.

The reading goes on to discuss the verse and the problem the world faces today with obeying God. Don’t wanna go in and preach, just wanna share so here are statements (rephrased by me) from the reading that stuck with me and I think people need to know.

1. The same God that commands us is the same God that carries us but we only want to be carried and not commanded. 

2. Obedience has become a swear word. A wave of anti-authority feeling is sweeping over the world.

3. Contemporary culture has taught us to believe that the self is autonomous and answerable to no one. This is WRONG. We are answerable to God.

4. People are more self-centered than other-centered. God-consciousness and neighbor-awareness are now things of the past. It’s all about “me”.

5. It is hard for the present generation to see that willing obedience to the commands of God is the pathway to fulfillment and human wholeness but then again, the truth is a tough pill to swallow.

6. “I think, therefore I am” has been updated to “I feel, therefore I am”. This is the wrong mentality. Abraham Heschel, a Jewish scholar said the right attitude to life should be “I am commanded, therefore I am”.

7. The secret to effective living is living in obedience to the commands of God.

8. Contrary to popular belief, God’s commands bring release- they free us to be the people He intended us to be.

9. Freedom is found in servitude to God. The more we obey God’s commands the freer we shall be. 

Don’t know about y’all but this touched me! I’ve been at the place where I wanted to question God’s authority and I would say to myself, “this is who I am. I can’t change this behavior. God should understand” but in reality, it’s a load of crap. We didn’t create ourselves nor did we create the world and it is stupid to go through life “doing you”. God who made you and loves you infinitely has a plan for you and you will only tap into it when you do WHAT HE TELLS YOU TO DO.

To wrap up, when you feel that you can’t do what God wants you to do which is a very common feeling, remember the saying “Mind over matter” and never forget that God who commands you, carries you; He gives us the power to obey His commands. 

Peace and love!


Not a Victim

In life, it’s so easy to let things kick you to the ground. Picture life as a big bully who’ll have you lying face down in the sand with a big nasty foot on your face, yelling at you to accept defeat. Sad thing is most of us do accept defeat.

I’ve always hated to be the victim. I hate people feeling sorry for me and I really do hate feeling down in the dumps. I’m normally a happy and extremely upbeat person, so much that when I am down, it greatly affects those around me which I also really hate!

In my last post, I basically stated that I’m not very happy right now. That’s allowed cause life can’t always be rosy but as humans beings, we tend to let the difficulties of life kill our spirits as I have done the past week.

It’s bullshit being a victim. When people/ life hit you, it’s a much better plan to stand and fight. Don’t let temporary feelings and situations permanently steal your joy.

We all need to learn to brush the dust off our shoulders and let go of the victim mentality. That’s really the only way to get better and move ahead when shit go down!